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live rent-free in someone's head

idiom
Meaning

To be the perpetual focus of someone's thoughts, with that person having no control over this situation.


Origin

first recorded 20th c.

Often attributed to American advice columnist Eppie Lederer (1918–2002), who used it in her syndicated advice column in 1990.

Examples
SIMPLE

That annoying comment lives rent-free in my head.

CONTEXTUAL

Even though the argument ended weeks ago, his rude words still live rent-free in my head.

COMPLEX

Despite her efforts to move on, the memory of that failure continues to live rent-free in her head, haunting her every time she attempts a new project.

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  2. 02

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    To be or do exactly what someone has been wishing or asking for.

  3. 03

    answer to someone's prayers

    Exactly what someone has been wishing or asking for.

  4. 04

    apple of someone's eye

    The object of somebody's affections; a person (or sometimes a thing) that someone strongly prefers; a favorite, a loved one.

  5. 05

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    Someone or something that poses a significant problem to someone.

  6. 06

    bang one's head against a brick wall

    To waste effort on a futile project.

  7. 07

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    Attempt to get results from a previously ineffectual or argumentative group, typically by coercion or force.

  8. 08

    bash someone's face in

    To beat someone violently.

Last updated July 12, 2026