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be cruel to be kind

idiom
Meaning

To act cruelly in order to achieve a positive outcome in the future.


Origin

disputed origin

From William Shakespeare's Hamlet, Act 3, Scene 4: "I must be cruel, only to be kind: / Thus bad begins and worse remains behind."

Examples
SIMPLE

I must be cruel to be kind and stop your bad habit.

CONTEXTUAL

The doctor had to be cruel to be kind by forcing the patient to walk immediately after the surgery.

COMPLEX

By refusing to provide the funding that had enabled his son's recklessness, the father was being cruel to be kind, hoping to finally teach him the value of responsibility.

Anchors to
Related idioms4entries
  1. 01

    cruel mistress

    Something which has both significant positive and negative aspects.

  2. 02

    in kind

    In a reciprocal manner; in a similar way; in the same kind.

  3. 03

    kind of

    Slightly; somewhat; sort of.

  4. 04

    kind regards

    Used as a polite closing of a letter.

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