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play the man and not the ball

idiom
Meaning

To object to someone's argument by attacking them or a facet of their personality instead of the argument itself; to make an ad hominem attack.


Examples
SIMPLE

Don't play the man and not the ball during our debate.

CONTEXTUAL

Instead of answering my question about the budget, he started playing the man and not the ball by criticizing my past mistakes.

COMPLEX

In a display of poor rhetoric, the politician chose to play the man and not the ball, ignoring the policy proposal entirely to focus on his opponent's character.

Anchors to
Related idioms8entries
  1. 01

    ball hog

    In team sports, a player who keeps the ball to themselves, rather than passing it.

  2. 02

    ball of fire

    A person who is especially active, ambitious, hard-working, or high-achieving.

  3. 03

    ball of malt

    A glass of whiskey.

  4. 04

    balls of steel

    Courage, audacity.

  5. 05

    balls to the wall

    With maximum effort or commitment.

  6. 06

    be a man

    To put up with something or take responsibility for it; to deal with something, such as pain or misfortune, without complaining.

  7. 07

    be one's own man

    To behave independently without the influence of others.

  8. 08

    be the bigger man

    To walk away from a conflict to prevent it from escalating.

Last updated April 17, 2026