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Phrasal verb

lighten up

Definition

phrasal verb. to stop being so serious or worried and start being more relaxed. You use this when someone is taking a situation too seriously or getting angry about a small problem.

phrasal verb. to adopt a less serious, formal, or somber attitude. The verb is primarily used intransitively in this idiomatic sense to encourage a change in mood or perspective.

Examples

“Lighten up, it was only a joke!”

“After working for twelve hours straight, Sarah told her boss he needed to lighten up and go home to his family.”

“The tension within the diplomatic envoy began to dissipate only when the lead negotiator finally decided to lighten up and share a personal anecdote.”

Examples

simple

“Lighten up, it was only a joke!”

contextual

“After working for twelve hours straight, Sarah told her boss he needed to lighten up and go home to his family.”

complex

“The tension within the diplomatic envoy began to dissipate only when the lead negotiator finally decided to lighten up and share a personal anecdote.”

Usage

This phrase is most commonly used in the imperative mood as a command or a piece of friendly advice.

Teaching tip

Contrast this with 'calm down'; while 'calm down' addresses high energy or anger, 'lighten up' specifically targets excessive seriousness or a gloomy mood.

Pitfall

He lightened up a cigarette before the meeting.

He lit up a cigarette before the meeting.

Learners often confuse the verb 'lighten' (to make less heavy or serious) with the verb 'light' (to ignite).

Phrasal verb

Particles

up

Separability

inseparable

Pattern

lighten + up

Synonyms

Antonyms

tense upworrybrood

Grammar

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Exam level
CambridgeCambridgeCambridge English QualificationsThe exam suite from Cambridge University Press & Assessment, from A1 Movers up to C2 Proficiency. The benchmark names double as CEFR labels.B2 FirstIELTSIELTSInternational English Language Testing SystemThe 0–9 band test co-owned by the British Council, IDP, and Cambridge. Used for university entry, work, and migration.5.5–6.5TOEFL iBTTOEFL iBTTest of English as a Foreign Language, Internet-Based TestETS's academic English test, the standard route for US university admissions. Scored 0–120, with a 1–6 scale since 2026.1–6 scale: 4.0–4.572–94TOEICTOEICTest of English for International CommunicationETS's workplace English test, big in Japan and Korea. Listening & Reading scores 10–990 and tops out at C1.785–944
Level
B2 · Upper Intermediate
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